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Penultimate

The last but one. It’s a curious thing to be sat here pondering a final note to you, my loyal readers. I’ve just been a walk along the beach in the heat of the midday sun. You know what they say about mad dogs and Englishmen. I spent a good deal of the walk reflecting […]

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Seeking clarity through chaos

There is a theory that says clarity can be found through chaos. The teaching goes that the confusion that comes in the chaotic phase must be dispelled and through that process we reach a new clarity. It’s an idea that can apply to creativity and entrepreneurialism as much as to relationships. I’ve had an interesting […]

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Heavy lifting

The dynamic in a relationship shifts continually. I’m currently experiencing resistance and frustration in my romantic partnership. The lockdown has landed many couples in an otherwise healthy relationship in a deeper place of energetic ballet. So far this last couple weeks I’ve alternated between mellow highs and irritating lows. I’m sitting here today writing this […]

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Co-Dependents Anonymous

Yesterday I attended a Co-Dependents Anonymous meeting. CoDA is a twelve step recovery program to help folks enjoy healthy, loving relationships. I knew I had some codependent traits but speaking with the group and working through the materials really helped to highlight my blind spots. We’re all codependent in some form. The extent to which […]

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Triggers for compassion

We all have triggers. Certain attitudes, actions and behaviour patterns in others will provoke a reaction. How do we manage this? Is it best to speak up and confront the situation head on? Is better to act swiftly to resolve the disagreement? What if we just sit still and ride it out, observing that the […]